It's not fair. None of it. Nothing in life. I have come to this conclusion through direct observation of life over 35 years. This fact probably surprises no one who is reading this. But what does society teach us is such a virtue as we grow up within it? Fair play. So if the world is patently not a fair environment, why teach it and esteem it so highly?
Control.
It is my assertion that the individuals who profit most from this state of affairs are those who wield the greatest wealth and political power, and who are not bound by the naive tenets of fairness. This is not even to say that all who have power over others for one reason or another exhibit this tendency, only that it is epidemic throughout that population.
Those who play dirty tend to fare very well in competition with those who play by the rules, unless the latter individual is a particularly skilled gamer. By game, I mean in the von Neumann sense rather than in the James Carse sense.
So what is to be done? The decision rests with each individual as to whether it is better to acknowledge the cost of playing fair, yet still do so, or to abandon the ideal of fairness and exert ones will by any means necessary to achieve desired results. If the latter choice is made, to what degree should the paradigm be carried? All-out bastard, or occasional cheater. From an absolute standpoint, is this a rational continuum, or once the first step is taken, should it be "in for a penny, in for a pound"?
There is no tidy ending to this little rant. It is an ongoing dilemma. In order to satisfy my own ethical code, I have been "playing by the rules" for most of my life. After a certain number of years of this not leading to optimal results, the question arises whether a paradigm shift is in order? I'm certain that a number of my LHP friends would be laughing at me for even wrestling with such issues. Conversely, my RHP friends might be appalled that I am even examining this change in my outlook.